Motherhood and Disicpline

I am acquainted with many of them, most of my friends are them. Mothers.  Over the weekend our little family was out and about and I was surrounded by them. And it popped in my head how many different kinds there are! There are young mommies, older mommies,  the I know everything better than you mommy, the supportive mommy, the unsure mommy, the mommy to be, the mommy who wants to be a mommy, the researcher mommy, the fun mommy ….the list goes on and on. It’s the bond that ties and relates most women together.

I was in the store the other day, and I saw her, you know. the Jerry Springer mommy. The lady screaming bloody murder (and you know what else) to her misbehaving child in the store. It must be the same Lady traveling around to different stores screaming at the same poor child, because I see it all the time! Surely there cannot be a large number of mothers out there screaming at there naughty ones? Right?

I try super hard not to be judgmental of these grocery store banshees. I mean who am I to judge? I have an autistic child, and he makes every outing fun. Haha. Or not. There are many times I wish I could blow my top, let out the steam and rip right into him. Cause that would show him…right???? I believe it would show him something, but not what he should be seeing.

My thinking is every time you discipline you child you are teaching them something about you.  How you handle each situation, reveals another part of you. What have you taught your child about you? It scares me sometimes, when in disciplining my child..(which done correctly is supposed to be a learning experience) what I am actually teaching them. Instead of training them to be better, I am teaching them how to handle a situation. I am generally a pretty low key individual. It takes allot to get me mad or upset. People often comment how patient I can be with my kids. And I do try very hard to be. But no one is perfect and handles a situation perfectly 100% of the time. But I do believe if you train your self on how to respond properly it becomes habit. It bothers me to see these mothers. The lash out disciplinarian, with no self control. Its an amazing wonder they ending up with no self control children that lash out them selves! I think its definitely not coincidence.

Being a mother is not for the weak, from giving birth to giving your child away at marriage and beyond. I have learned it’s a extreme sport. Its so hard sometimes. But anything that is hard always has the most beneficial rewards.

I challenge myself every day to be that example my children need to see. I strive to be what I want them to achieve. I believe in discipline, strongly. But it needs to be done the right way.

And I am pretty sure being a grocery store banshee isn’t the right way…just saying.